I was once an active twitter user but taking a year, off social media has its perks. Let’s just say by the time I jetted back to reality, I lost my twitter mojo and now, I’m just a twitter surfer. Funny enough, the tweets I read hardly holds a sister attention (perhaps it could be me following all the wrong people got to change that).
But few days back, a retweet got my attention (and I’ve got to tell you, it’s pretty hard to get me all riled up nowadays). A friend of mine retweeted the tweet of a young lady, Yoruba by tribe, who apparently refused to bend a knee for her groom during her traditional ceremony. First thing I did was to check her page out (I’m sorry, but I’m sure we all do this) because I needed to understand who this ‘super woman’ was.
Now, let me tell you a bit of how the Yoruba culture works. There are contracted professionals which are known as the Alaga Ijoko (traditional master of ceremony). They could either be a family member or a total stranger. Their duty is to coordinate the proceeding and make sure that every traditional rite is performed dutifully. Usually, the groom prostrates before the bride’s family as a sign of respect, in turn the bride will do the same when brought before her groom and his families. This is a well known and respected tradition to all. So imagine my surprise when I came across this woman’s tweet who pretty much flaunted all the rules all in a bid to prove a ‘feminist’ point.
The rate at which ladies disrespect customs and traditions and are quick to tag it being an act of feminism is pretty much appalling. Feminism is a word that is most times misused and a swift excuse for the female who doesn’t know much about it. It goes beyond owning a shirt with the inscriptions on it or better still being a loudspeaker who practically just echoes the word without knowing the grounds to it.
The average feminist stands firmly behind the notion that submission to the other sex, doesn’t fulfill equal rights, when truly it goes beyond all of that. Now all you ‘practicing feminists’ take a chill pill before jumping on me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a young lady, who believes in respects and rights to be respected irrespective of sex or gender. I don’t feel the need to label myself as a feminist, (because really I’ve got a broader perspective than the norm). But I’m also an African woman and a respecter of values and customs. I was raised to critically understand where my roots are and the role tradition tends to play.
To each, respect should be given accordingly, a balance struck and without any interferance. The advocation for equality amongst women is most times misplaced and taken to the extreme. Even the Bible states, give unto Ceaser what is Ceaser.
At this point you might be wondering what the whole fuss is about? But really, this is just a sister airing her opinion on a young feminist, who I felt took it a bit too far. Feel free to let us in on your views.